Have You Let That Friend Go Yet?

A couple of weeks ago, I released a podcast titled “When To Let Go of Friends Who No Longer Serve You Purpose.” If you have not listened, you can check it out here or here . We often miss our blessing because we are hanging on to the past due to fear. And sometimes old friends are one of those things that we are simply afraid to let go of. I believe that every friend that walked through my life was great. Some were meant for a lifetime, whereas some were meant for a season. It took a while for me to come to grips with that. At one point, I thought I was turning my back on them. In actuality, I was turning my back on my growth. Letting go is not saying “I am better than you,” or “You were never a great friend.” Letting go is saying “Thank you for being a safe place in my life when I needed, however, it is time for the both of us to grow.”

Many times we hung on to relationships with our significant others because it was easy, even though we knew it was over a long time ago. Moving on is hard, so we allow ourselves to stay in that dysfunctional or draining funk, even though we know our life will be so much lighter if we just move on. Here is a few questions to ask yourself about your friendships that you are struggling with:

  1. Does this person bring light to my life?
  2. Does this person congratulate me on my wins, and uplift me through my lows?
  3. Does this person support my growth?
  4. Are our conversations one sided?
  5. Does answering their call drain me before I hear his/her voice (trust me this happens)?
  6. Are our conversations uplifting or just messy and draining?

I can go on and on, but do you have more no’s that yeses? Then it is time to determine if that friend is holding you back instead of pushing you forward. Give yourself the permission to move on. You deserve it.

~Kasey

Published by KSaloneCoach

Kasey is a Relationship Coach that specializes in couples who struggle with communication, intimacy and boundaries in their relationships. With a Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, she has learned how to work with complex systems and understand the profound effect of collaboration. Kasey has helped hundreds of people work through their challenges, and enhance their relationships. Not just through her education, but as a United States Navy Veteran, Kasey has traveled the world and experienced first hand the various ways that love is communicated. Also through her military service, Kasey learned the core values of honor, courage and commitment, and has applied it to her businesses and relationships. She believes that the client is the expert on their own lives and success is the result of client willingness and the relationship with the coach. Her goal is to create loving, lasting and cohesive relationships-no matter where you are in your journey. Kasey and her husband, a 21 year servicember the United States Navy, have been married for 12 years, have 3 children, a dog, and tons of memories from their various duty stations. Kasey’s new podcast A Melanated Mess, will be available in July. Also she has written for Queens Uniting, a non profit organization and Military Spouse Behavioral Health Clinicians (MSBHC). You can find Kasey on Instagram and Facebook @ksalonecoach. She recently completed her first relationship e-workbook, 5 Senses of Love, which is available on her website www.ksalone.com.

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