A couple of weeks ago, I released a podcast titled “When To Let Go of Friends Who No Longer Serve You Purpose.” If you have not listened, you can check it out here or here . We often miss our blessing because we are hanging on to the past due to fear. And sometimes old friends are one of those things that we are simply afraid to let go of. I believe that every friend that walked through my life was great. Some were meant for a lifetime, whereas some were meant for a season. It took a while for me to come to grips with that. At one point, I thought I was turning my back on them. In actuality, I was turning my back on my growth. Letting go is not saying “I am better than you,” or “You were never a great friend.” Letting go is saying “Thank you for being a safe place in my life when I needed, however, it is time for the both of us to grow.”
Many times we hung on to relationships with our significant others because it was easy, even though we knew it was over a long time ago. Moving on is hard, so we allow ourselves to stay in that dysfunctional or draining funk, even though we know our life will be so much lighter if we just move on. Here is a few questions to ask yourself about your friendships that you are struggling with:
- Does this person bring light to my life?
- Does this person congratulate me on my wins, and uplift me through my lows?
- Does this person support my growth?
- Are our conversations one sided?
- Does answering their call drain me before I hear his/her voice (trust me this happens)?
- Are our conversations uplifting or just messy and draining?
I can go on and on, but do you have more no’s that yeses? Then it is time to determine if that friend is holding you back instead of pushing you forward. Give yourself the permission to move on. You deserve it.