So we are at the end, and these last three tips. They really mesh together, and are probably the most forgotten in relationships.
One thing we often forget to do in relationships is check in with our significant other. How often do you ask, “Are you happy,” “Are you satisfied” or “What could I be doing better?” We get into a place in our marriages, where we feel its going great because we (individually) are happy. But what about your spouse, just because you are happy, does not mean that he/she is. We all perceive things differently-so do not assume that because you are happy, your spouse feels the same. Also, internally, we are afraid of the truth. So if you ask this question, and the answer is “No, I am not happy” then the what next comes into play. We hear no, but interpret, he/she doesn’t want me anymore. You will go through phases in your marriage, where you are honestly not happy. But this is where you communicate, learn, and grow. So check in with your spouse, as life changes, people change and grow. So communicate and grow together. Do not be afraid of the answer, be afraid of what may happen if you do not ask the question. I propose that you check in with your significant other at least every 6 months.
9. Dating (have fun)
When was the last time you’ve been on a date? Take a minute, think about it. How often did you date when you were courting? I know you are probably thinking “life gets in the way, we work, have kids, etc.” I get that; I am guilty of it. However, we have to make time for the things that are important in your life. What are the 3 most important things in your life? How much time do you dedicate to those things, and what is the result? Take time to shut off the world and give attention to each other. Carve out at least one night every two weeks-at least- for just you two. Low on funds, when the kids go to bed, put the phones in a different room, and enjoy a nice dinner and in-home movie. Better yet, have drinks in the kitchen or on the patio and refer to #8 above~ check in with each other.
10. Never Give Up
There is so much more I could say, but this last tip sums it up: Never Give Up. Never stop loving, and never stop trying. It can be easier said than done, because quitting and walking away is often easier than going through the fire and hard work, even though success and happiness is on the other side. Choose the road that is often not taken. Resilience is key to mastering anything in life- including your relationships.
I hope you have enjoyed some of the many marriage tips I have shared over the course of two weeks. If you have any, that can give me and others insight, please share below. And click the link below for a poem by Maya Angelou that will perfectly sum it all up.