Making Decisions Together~Tip 7

One of the hardest things to understand as a newly married couple is how important it is to make decisions together. We often need those hard lessons to teach us this. Purchasing a car, plane ticket, or even a pair of shoes can have serious reparations on your relationships. When decisions aren’t made together, two things stick out: you are still operating with an independent mindset, and poor communication.

Your money is no longer YOUR money, your car is no longer YOUR car. Marriage is all inclusive, meaning once you exchange the I’s for a We, there are no exceptions. You are now responsible for each other, so consider how you loaning that one broke cousin $100 will impact your finances. I look at it as a great thing. I no longer feel bad about not loaning money. My excuse is: My husband said we can’t afford it. Don’t judge me, lol, my heart can be soft so I need an out😜. He doesn’t mind being the fall guy if that prevents us from making unnecessary mistakes, purchases, etc.

But the bottom line: communicate with your spouse before making decisions. Trust his/ her instincts.

Published by KSaloneCoach

Kasey is a Relationship Coach that specializes in couples who struggle with communication, intimacy and boundaries in their relationships. With a Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, she has learned how to work with complex systems and understand the profound effect of collaboration. Kasey has helped hundreds of people work through their challenges, and enhance their relationships. Not just through her education, but as a United States Navy Veteran, Kasey has traveled the world and experienced first hand the various ways that love is communicated. Also through her military service, Kasey learned the core values of honor, courage and commitment, and has applied it to her businesses and relationships. She believes that the client is the expert on their own lives and success is the result of client willingness and the relationship with the coach. Her goal is to create loving, lasting and cohesive relationships-no matter where you are in your journey. Kasey and her husband, a 21 year servicember the United States Navy, have been married for 12 years, have 3 children, a dog, and tons of memories from their various duty stations. Kasey’s new podcast A Melanated Mess, will be available in July. Also she has written for Queens Uniting, a non profit organization and Military Spouse Behavioral Health Clinicians (MSBHC). You can find Kasey on Instagram and Facebook @ksalonecoach. She recently completed her first relationship e-workbook, 5 Senses of Love, which is available on her website www.ksalone.com.

One thought on “Making Decisions Together~Tip 7

  1. This is definitely something that people don’t understand. Living in a marriage with the mentality of mine and yours is a recipe for disaster…and secrets.

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